Taking Stock of the Week: Grace in the midst of Violence, Hatred, Anger & “Disney Church”

It has been an intense week for me: on Tuesday I drove down to Ft. Jackson, SC to finish Navy Chaplain Basic Leadership Course.  Since Wednesday, it’s been 12 hour days of “zero-dark hundred PT,” learning about combat survival and first aid, and preparing for next week’s 4-day exercise of indoctrination of working in a combat field environment with 16 other chaplains.  It’ll be a week of sleeping on the ground, eating MREs, practicing how to keep Marines and Sailors alive should we find ourselves in that situation, and of course, trying not to get lost out in the woods (land navigation).

Add that to the week the tragic shooting in Chattanooga, TN and the death of 4 Marines and now 1 Navy Petty Officer.  Add to that the KKK/Black Power protests at the South Carolina Capitol Building Saturday afternoon – that I attended and observed.  And add to that the impact 35,000 people in my church are making in Detroit as they attend the ELCA National Youth Gathering has been likened to “Disney World” and “Skittles.” (Update: not all on the outside held this skewed vision. Some saw my church for what I love about it.) 

I just sit here right now, feeling a whole host of emotions, feeling conflicted, trying to make sense of it all.

I’ve made sense of some of it in a previous post, just longing and wanting more from the collective of individuals that make up “church.”  We need to do more than just pray and let such things pass along in the constantly flowing stream of narrative that makes up our world today.  Death, violence, hatred, suffering, injustice…..it can never be for the Christian just another story.  But as I said, I am still conflicted, maybe even still angry…..and it was this offering from a fellow Navy chaplain on Friday morning that I have been wrestling with:

“The things that make us the most angry; those are the things that God wants us to change.”

Now, the language of change is not part of my theological frame; it’s not how I think faith and God works.  I think rather I would say it is the things that make us most angry that perhaps God wants us to pay attention to.  If this holds true, then….

  • the violence and hatred I experienced this past couple days is something that God wants and needs us to wake up to, no matter what form it takes, or whether it’s “personal” to us or not.  Regardless of how it touches us – or how it doesn’t – Christians don’t have the luxury of simply nodding their heads and moving on.  We follow in the way of the cross, diving headfirst right into the discussion and issue of violence created out of fear and hatred.
  • I have to examine why the National Youth Gathering bothers me so much up and against the reality that it is a powerful and important event for the life of the church – the ELCA – that I am a part of.  I won’t lie – the National Youth Gathering seems so disconnected to what I understand what it means to be a church of the cross.  I admit, I’ve never attended the ELCA National Youth Gathering; are my feelings out of jealousy and resentment, or are they borne out of a feeling perhaps, that there is something significant lacking that bears reflection?
  • the negative and apathetic attitudes of progressive liberalism towards the military, the people who serve in it, and the reality of the profession needs to become an opportunity for conversation, not a source of resentment and bitterness. Militant views of Christianity have hijacked and glorified war as a “just” means of defeating evil.  Yet we have to find a way to acknowledge the reality of evil manifested in our world, and come up with a better ethical frame to reconcile military action that doesn’t leave us with “either/or” but rather “both/and.”
  • the question of what exactly is the integrity behind the church today that unites us all is one worth pushing and exploring.

The anger that I feel, God calls me to pay attention to it because God has something to say to me.  That anger I feel should move me towards understanding and connection with others.  It should move me towards a deeper reflection and self-awareness of how I view the world and what I believe.  When my anger moves me in such a way, it moves me straight into the arms of God’s Grace.

I suppose I am odd that way….that such wrestling, such conflict of conscience, and unsettling of my soul always seems to make me feel closer to God.  But it works that way for me.  “Disney World” and “Skittles” community doesn’t do that for me.  Limited interaction and response to the world doesn’t either.   Only entering into the mess and conflict that is the broken world we live in, and trying to live out love in relationship with others – even when their discomfort or disagreement move them to marginalize and attempt to silence me – brings me any closer to the place where Christ encounters me.

It is this grace that helps me move from my anger to a place of making sense of things.  It is this grace that moves me from my frustration to accept that faith is expressed in many different ways by individuals and the church – and all of it has its place under the sun in the Kingdom of God on earth.  It is this grace that expands how I understand Christ and the cross, and expands my understanding of what it means to love.  Love sometimes is an affection we feel for others, but it is also putting oneself in the place of vulnerability to push others – and allow them to pushback –  in the communal process of faith seeking understanding.

That grace has taken many different forms this week.  Friends expressing not just their resonance with what I have to say, but also saying while they don’t quite understand they are willing to engage the conversation.  It’s coming to the place where I can respect what matters to others about being church while hoping they respect the disconnect I feel. It’s even those suppressing the comments they’d probably like to throw at me – as a friend told me, “…not everyone wants a Honeybadger.”

It is this grace that finds me in the midst of violence, hatred, anger, and expressions of a church I feel no connection with this week that moves me from the margins and right into the center of the Christian community that is formed in Christ and the cross – to connection and engagement with the world and others, not alienation from it.



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4 responses to “Taking Stock of the Week: Grace in the midst of Violence, Hatred, Anger & “Disney Church”

  1. Barbara

    To assist in your Gathering examination, if you haven’t already done so, you might check out the Getting Ready lesson materials provided by the Gathering to help congregations learn about, prepare for, and now, follow up on the experience: http://www.elca.org/Resources/ELCA-Youth-Gathering?_ga=1.41245030.577024504.1387978672

    We – and other congregations I’ve talked with – have had some really good, in-depth conversations with our youth using these materials.

    • Barbara, frankly you reinforce my frustration – rather than ask to seek understanding or why I feel the way I do, you try to “fix” me by offering to “educate” me. While I understand and respect that you and your youth have had a positive NYG experience, It is frustrating your discomfort makes you feel justified to marginalize my feelings.

  2. Barbara

    I apologize; that was not my intent.

    • Apology acknowledged, however, I would point to your implied, subconscious intent. Power & privilege often manifest in the need to educate & correct people back to the majority view.

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